Theory of Mind is the ability to know what other people might be thinking, intending or feeling in a situation. People with Autism often lack a developed sense of Theory of Mind, and in fact can not imagine that you do not have the same thoughts and feelings that they do. Here is a case example from when J-Boy was 4:
I had picked up his room and thrown away a trading card type of thing that was cut out from the back of a cereal box. I put it in my bathroom trash. J comes in to use the bathroom and sees it in the can. "Hey! Why'd you throw this away??" "Oh, I didn't think you wanted it anymore." "Well, YOU SHOULD HAVE USED THAT PART OF MY BRAIN THAT KNEW THAT I DID!!!!"
Five years later, his theory of mind is progressing, and he has developed forethought and empathy.
Not last night, but the night before:
J-Boy: Mom, can I tell you something?
Me: Sure.
J-Boy: I love your mom.
Me: Oh, that’s sweet. You’re thinking about Nonnie?
J-Boy: Yeah. She’s an even cuter version of you.
Me: Thanks!
J-Boy: Yeah. I said “even cuter” because if I just said “a cute version of you” that would have been mean.
Me: Thanks, again! (I think...)
J-Boy: Good night.
Last night:
J-Boy: *Huge Hug* Mom, you are my favorite person in the WHOLE Universe. (walks away)
Me: Thanks, J! I love you, too!
J-Boy: (turning around with a finger in the air to shush me from continuing) Uhhh....Don't tell Nonnie, though. I don't want to hurt her feelings.
Me: Okay. But can I put it on my Blog?
J-Boy: Sure!
Gotta love it!
Awww...too sweet. You're doing a great job of raising that kid up! He's swell.
Posted by: Alisa | September 08, 2008 at 09:04 AM
Nonnie adores that sweet boy and her feelings aren't hurt in the least little bit! In fact, she's feeling pretty cute and full of love for both of you, as well as for BD & J girl.
Posted by: Nonnie | September 09, 2008 at 10:03 PM